A Home of Love and Laughter

Today we join the Love Blog Challenge and the topic is laughter. Hmmm…How do love and laughter combine? Many many stories come to mind.

A Lifetime of Laughter

Before we married, Quinn told me an anecdote from the old sitcom “Night Court.” The characters included the goofy judge, the “together” lawyer, and the grumpy-old-lady-guard. The “together” lawyer was lamenting the goofy judge’s capacity for silliness, how could they succeed in a forever relationship together when he refused to “grow up”? Concerns for his responsibility weighed upon her mind and the prospect of their future.

After a pause, the grumpy-old-lady-guard said, “Yeah… after a lifetime of laughter, what have you got?”

This story was one of the ways Quinn convinced me to keep him. So many worse fates than a lifetime of laughter.

Keeping a Sense of Humor

When my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s she said, “So…I’ve got old-timers?”

“Yup,” I said.

“Well, at least I’ve still got my sense of humor.”

The doctor said, “It’s better to lose your memory than your sense of humor.”

I can’t make that call, but I hope with each new normal, she keeps her wittiness and smile. People (caregivers) are far kinder and attentive to those who are compliant and friendly.

Does Laughter Equal Happiness?

In a previous post about laughter, I mentioned the quote, “The problem with your family is they judge happiness by laughter.”

So, while it’s true that laughter doesn’t = true happiness. For example, a bitter cackle or a sinister snicker is empty of joy, yet still a laugh. But when there’s love…laughter and love are the quintessential complimentary team.

When times are good, the laughter flows easily like a rushing creek in the spring. When times are hard, laughter in a house with love is truly medicine, nourishment, and relief. I’ve been hungry but still happy, when I lived in a house with love and laughter.

I’ve also lived in a privileged space without want, but it included biting words, and was missing thoughtfulness and respectfulness. I chose hungry (again) rather than live without the fullness that laughter and love together to bring.

Love that includes commitment, respect, encouragement – these are what make a nurturing home. Laughter is a delightful bonus. Laughter without the basis of love is…nice. But not enough. It can take the edge of hard times, but not replace the comfort and stability that this combo brings.

My wish for everyone, really, is a home with the laughter that fills you, warms you, hugs you.

Marcus and Quinn crack me up nearly every day.  We work at being fun and funny, it’s a priority in our home. To prove it, here’s a short video of these two goofballs, plus a surprise guest! (The laughing is the best part.)

 


AND NOW – we’re hoping you will hop along in the Love Blog Challenge and tell us about laughter and love in your world! #LoveBlog2019. Please don’t link dump – Please Comment on the link before yours and at least one other link. Get to know your fellow bloggers!

Let’s meet today’s hosts:

Brita is the hostess with the mostess Love Blog ideas. Brita Long is also the pink and sparkly personality behind the Christian feminist lifestyle blog, Belle Brita. On her blog and social media, you’ll discover more than authentic storytelling–she’s brutally honest about pursuing a fulfilling and joyful life even with Crohn’s Disease and depression. Check out the kick-off post hereFind Belle at: Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, Facebook,  and BlogLovin

And Alessia! of  www.theblondpond.com

Alessia is a lifestyle blogger, entrepreneur and post-graduate student in History from the best borough in London, up and coming Croydon. She’s a bit like Emma Woodhouse (Pemberley Digital version) and just about no longer the most eligible Catholic bachelorette, as she has found her Mr Knightley in sunny Derbyshire.

Find Alessia at: Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest, and Bloglovin.

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2019-02-02T08:22:10+00:00Categories: Grown Ups & Downs|Tags: , , |6 Comments

6 Comments

  1. Nancy Burton Wolfe February 4, 2019 at 3:33 pm - Reply

    (“It used to be an In-ee” – possibly the funniest thing I’ve heard in an unscripted video in a long time.)

    You said “I’ve also lived in a privileged space without want, but it included biting words.” And don’t we, too often, endure the biting words because we thing the privilege brings us comfort, when actually those biting words cause more discomfort and harm? We are odd creatures, us humans. I’m glad you are in the company of those two goofballs who are clearly experts at the art of love and laughter…xoxox

    • Mardra February 4, 2019 at 10:33 pm - Reply

      Thanks Yes – Goofballs are the best! 🙂

  2. Sarah February 4, 2019 at 9:55 pm - Reply

    I chose hungry (again) rather than live without the fullness that laughter and love together to bring.

    Even the Bible does say that it’s better to be in a place of want and be happy than to be in a wealthy place with bitterness. (Paraphrased).

    • Mardra February 4, 2019 at 10:32 pm - Reply

      I did not know that (about the Bible teaching) but I believe it. 🙂

  3. Alessia February 5, 2019 at 5:44 am - Reply

    I have a lot of problems with how I grew up etc but one I can never truly fault is how much fun we used to have, mostly making fun of my father for having a really bad sense of humour. Now with my partner I just laugh for absolutely no reason at all, and I think the ability to be silly without feeling judged or inappropriate is what makes a home to me.

  4. Brita Long February 5, 2019 at 11:00 am - Reply

    Laughter based in love is the best! <3

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