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What I’m smiling at these days

2020-09-25T18:32:04-05:00Categories: Grown Ups & Downs|Tags: , , , |

Ok, first things first, #1 this video!

We are Goo Goo Dolls fans and have been since, oh…before some of you were born. (Well, probably not many under 21 reading this, but possible!) ANYway, Marcus and I have been singing along (and karaoke-ing too) to many a Goo Goo Dolls song over the years.  I even wrapped up the Goo Goo Dolls song “Iris” into a starter review of a few Broadway shows a few years ago. Marcus singing “Iris” is something that will never not rip my heart out. From

Marcus’ Three Lock Down Lessons (Or How’s Marcus Coping?)

2020-08-08T13:36:50-05:00Categories: Grown Ups & Downs|Tags: , , |

“How’s Marcus coping with all of this?” A common question from friends, family, coworkers and colleagues. One concern folks have is for his social well-being. Because many see Marcus as a very social guy, especially those having experienced his exuberant love for a good party or his enthusiastic greetings which light up any room. He does enjoy learning, travel, and working, for sure. However, he is also, by nature, an introvert, so the alone time mixed with occasional online social activities suits him fine.

Once in August – A Story, A Poem-ish, A Reflection, and Now

2020-08-02T07:21:07-05:00Categories: Grown Ups & Downs|Tags: , , , , |

A Story

Once in August…50 years ago

A baby was born to very young parents who couldn’t afford to bring her home. The hospital required ten dollars. Although there wasn’t ten dollars in the account, the clerk suggested the father write a check – he did and they bundled the baby home.

There wasn’t a crib yet, but the baby was very tiny (as newborns tend to be) so a dresser drawer was just snug enough.

Probably about 46 years ago.

Once

Imagining

2020-07-23T09:13:09-05:00Categories: Grown Ups & Downs|Tags: , , , |

Can you imagine?

Can you imagine a live action, or maybe a stage scene, based on the Alice and Wonderland characters Mad Hatter, played by Stephen Fry, the March Hare played by Lin Manual Miranda, and the door mouse is Patton Oswald…? Marcus imagined this and I would love to see it!

Marcus, Aristotle, and Douglas Adams Advice

2020-06-28T18:09:59-05:00Categories: Grown Ups & Downs|Tags: , , , , , |

In my young adulthood, I frequently said, “This is no time to panic…” Often at random moments, to no one in particular, mostly at work. 

After reading the book series, The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy, then seeing the classic BBC TV of the same name, the simpler phrase “Don’t panic” including a cheeky smirk and a deep sigh is a common refrain in my household. 

The first time I recall Marcus purposefully using the phrase “Don’t panic” was a memorable audition night in Denver seven or so years ago. 

Everyone Needs Help

2020-06-16T07:17:43-05:00Categories: Grown Ups & Downs|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

A Gift From the Universe to Change the World

coffee shop

My son, Marcus, and I have had many writing sessions and meetings with collaborators at our neighborhood coffee shop, particularly while we were working on his first book for children and the accompanying animated short. We also wrote the speech we gave at the United Nations building there earlier this year. Today I write solo and the notebook to my right has the lyric, “The universe is resting in my arms” (from Nina Gordan’s song “Tonight”) written and

On Becoming Marcus’ Mother

2020-06-14T08:30:36-05:00Categories: Grown Ups & Downs|Tags: , , , |

The sun shone in through the small hopper window near the ceiling. I woke up slowly and watched the sun beams that drifted to the floor. I knew it. I was a mother. From the outside I did not look…ready.

In my heart, I was. I smiled. I quit smoking.

The next week I went to the Doctor’s office for a pregnancy test. I didn’t bother buying one from the store because, well, as I said – I knew.

The test came back negative. The nurse and I spoke a bit about why I thought I was pregnant, her head shook dismissively as she wrote in the chart. I began eating lemons, friends looked at me and shrugged. Three weeks later I bought a pregnancy test at the drug store and it confirmed my knowledge. I returned to the doctor.

I Cried Every Year on My Son’s Birthday

2020-06-13T17:55:41-05:00Categories: Grown Ups & Downs|Tags: , , , , , |

Baby!I cried when he turned one and I knew heart surgery was on the horizon. I cried when he turned five and we were fighting with the public schools. When he turned 11, and…Why did I cry when he turned 11?

I sat next to my dad and said, “My birthdays don’t bother me. His make me a wreck.”

“That’s because you’re getting old.” My father suggested with his normal tact and

What’s Cookin’ (Bonus: Recipe Links!)

2020-04-20T09:40:17-05:00Categories: Grown Ups & Downs|Tags: , , , , , |

It’s Sunday. The day I write and the day I cook. I aggressively try to protect these two rituals. 

To me: Food is love. Food is survival. Food is creative art. Food is budgeted. Food is reward. Food is comfort. Food is control. 

I plan menus with care, choose foods that nourish, fill, and treat. Over the years Quinn’s dietary needs, restrictions, and requests have changed widely, and expanded my cooking knowledge and range. My food restrictions have changed too. Marcus’ tastes have expanded rather than

Covid-19 and Down Syndrome: Starter Info

2020-05-06T19:21:50-05:00Categories: Grown Ups & Downs|Tags: , , , , , |

Who knows?

I think it’s natural, as a parent, to try to – to want to – protect. Therefore, sometimes we don’t address issues, important stuff, that needs to be faced together, because we don’t want to share the burden of knowledge. 

That said, If there’s anything I’ve learned as Marcus’ mom it’s this: never assume he doesn’t know or won’t understand. 

Early, often, and honest explanations are important to Marcus’ ability to cope with difficult

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